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20 Men Who Emotionally Opened Up And Got Shut Down Right After

The mental health of men has always been a hot topic for discussion. Despite people being more open to admitting that they need help, many still find it a hard pill to swallow. These men share that opening up is something they do not because of something as simple as toxic masculinity.

The rejections they get when they show their fragile, vulnerable, ugly side is just too much for them. Makes you wonder why do people even try if all they will get s painful refusals from people they trusted so much in. This Reddit thread is telling us that we can be better than this.



“Grew up in the hood. Lost friends to violence or prison, lost people to drugs, saw some sh** that really f**ked me up.

Met a girl who told me I could tell her anything and she was always there if I needed to talk. One night it got to me and I opened up to her and you could just see all the attraction leave her face. She ended up distancing herself from me afterward and we lost contact.

Learned a harsh but blunt truth that night. When women say they want you to open up, what they really mean is the romanticized version their favorite romance flicks show, not what it actually looks like to open up.” – BigTiddyOrc



“My wife started sleeping with someone else. Lesson learned.” – RAHL3



“I don’t like opening up to anyone even today, after two years of anti-depressants and six months of therapy. I can’t open up to my mom because she would end up using it against me, maybe immediately, maybe later. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom. She’s been through a great deal and tried her level best to not let that [stuff] reach us ( my brother and I), but to err is human. My dad is what your typical Indian dad is, a stoic guy, not expressing himself( kind of like the meme of that dog sitting in a room on fire). Add to that his emotionally distant parents and him joining the army at 17 to become an officer and you have this absolutely thick exterior that doesn’t let anything through. I work as a doctor in Delhi. Everyone around is dying. Bright-eyed juniors I knew, people I said goodbye to not knowing it would be the last opportunity I’d get, patients and their hapless families, grieving mothers/ fathers/ wives/ husbands/ parents/ children. None of them deserved it and I feel that somehow I’m to blame. I can’t just man up every time. Sorry I started this diatribe. Had to get it out somewhere.” – trastmaanus



“I found out the person I wanted to be proud of me was just using me for their own personal gain. It was one of two people I fully let my guard down and man it stung.” – ajl987



“When I’ve opened up to women about my abusive childhood (because they ask me to “open up more”), they 9/10 times attempt to win gold in the “Victim Olympics”. They compare traumas and somehow make it about them. Yet when they tell me about their struggles/traumas I always listen, show compassion, and validate them if applicable. I never compare.

My ex even got mad at me after I opened up. Not in the moment. It was about 3 weeks later. She said, “I feel like I can’t even open up to you anymore”. When I asked why? she said, “When I think about what you’ve been through, I feel like I can’t complain about my situation”. She was upset at me for this and wanted me to apologize for having “worse” (it’s all subjective) trauma than her own.

I’ve found that many women want more for you to communicate how something made you feel. As opposed to hearing what actually happened. I’ve had the most success when I omit details and only discuss the feeling. For example “Childhood I felt helpless and alone but I’m good now”. Rather than “When I was 11 my brother held a metal fork to the stove and branded me with it for fun”.

Less details the better. Oh, and for the record, you’ll never out victim them.” – Praws12



“Told my dad I was on brain meds for anxiety. “Mental weakling” were the words I believe.” – auxiliary


Nik Shuliahin

“I went to therapy and my therapist advised me to let down my guard to my girlfriend. She lost all attraction to me, shared my issues with her whole friend group for “her support”, and then broke up with me. Life will teach you lessons the hard way whenever possible.” – BreakerMark78


Kim Siever

“You guys must have pretty terrible girlfriends. My wife and I share most things we feel vulnerable about. I am not going out of my way to be emotional, but I’m not hiding it behind some shield either.

If you show your true colors to a partner and she breaks up with you, it wasn’t meant to last anyway.” – KtG_80


Mike Boening Photography

“I opened up to my mother twice about how I feel about my life and she is still using it against me 5 years later. I’ll never forgive her for that.” – Wooshmeister55


Bart Everson

“I opened up about my home situation in primary school to my teachers. it was about how my dad has a fuse the size of a microbe and can be verbally..abusive. my teacher told my parents what I told her. needless to say, my dad was pissed and I didn’t dare to talk about this stuff to “trust persons” till last year (16 years later).” – Riganthor



“My mother passed when I was 15, cried my eyes out to my girlfriend at the time – she called me a little b***h and said she didn’t get why I was crying – behind my back to her group of friends, and my best friend, who told me. So I broke up with her, then she spread a bunch of rumors about me. Yep, Teenagers are f**ked up.” – Vakiand


Cristian Ungureanu

“The one person I looked up to and wanted to be proud of me told me how worthless I was to him in a way that left no room for doubt.” – IFinallyDidItMom



“My ex never reacted well to me opening up to her. I think it scared her or something. Getting a real, raw glimpse inside someone who is struggling with mental health issues can really freak people out, especially when they have this idea of who their partner should be or, how they want their life to be.” – SirZachofThames



“My biological father is a piece of sh**, and a lot of my depression and self-esteem issues stem from my relationship with him. I tried opening up to a college girlfriend about it, and she called me “Captain Daddy Issues” and laughed at me. I laughed it off at the time, but it seriously broke my heart and led to me shutting down emotionally until I met the woman I wound up marrying.” – Scungilli-Man69


“In college, a couple friends (both f) noticed I (m) was having a bad week and insisted I tell them what was going on.

After 15 minutes of me ranting about my grades, professors, my job, my family, I was starting to feel better getting it all off my chest. But then one of them, making no attempt to hide it, leans to the other and says “Damn, I wish we never asked” and they both start laughing with each other about how much they didn’t want to be there listening to me.

Now whenever people ask how I’m doing I just say I’m fine or I’m tired to save the time and energy.” – stressedRAPHAEL



“In my family, I – as the father – am the rock and immovable point where everything hinges on. The stoic calm eye of the storm. I once started to open up to my wife about what worries me and she almost had a nervous breakdown and I ended up consoling her for an hour. And it was some of the rather tame [stuff] I deal with all the time.

I stopped opening up about my worries towards her after that. I have a friend or two I can share heavy stuff with, but not with my partner. I tell her about stuff once it is solved.

“You should open up to me more!”


Example of something current? The smell of disinfectant triggers painful memories of the death of my first daughter (NICU, 27 days old). Luckily you can’t see my face under the mask in public, where there is a disinfectant station at every shop. I barely flinch at the pain anymore.

‘You look grumpy today?’

‘Grocery shopping was… exhausting. Everything is fine.’” – Horst665



“My grandfather who was like my father died. Then for the next 3 weeks, I was very sad and aloof. My girlfriend at the time just found another guy because I couldn’t be fun.” – blacksmy



“For me, it was when I needed her to be the strong one. Got super stressed out from first deployment, expressed that I needed a day or two of my own time to chill out from my gf at the time due to her insatiable desire to either be horny or problematic or how she would constantly express her horniness and then dump a really tough conversation on me (she was very back and forth about wanting kids, huge topic for me). Like she’d butter me up and then mention her mother wants us to date for 7 years before marriage and that’s the only way it could happen like wHAT. So. During the time I needed to clear my head, I didn’t do anything that’d hurt her I just went to work and focused on myself and coping.

Turns out, she lost interest in me pretty much immediately and then left me two days later once I felt okay again because I wasn’t good enough. It’s cool, I was fine all alone out there and I learned that I am not dating a manipulative wreck who uses relationships to feel better about themself and uses me as a therapist. I’m a grown-*ss man and sometimes if I’m really stressed I need space away from the stress and not more crying or problems or complicated shenanigans.” – No-Pilot-2870



“A friend of mine told me I should open up more, and to share more with her. She promptly decided to drop all her problems on me, while also telling me to f**k off when I had my own problems because “you should go deal with your problems yourself, I’m not your therapist”. She then used my issues to try and gaslight me into thinking I was insane. Nice gal, we ain’t friends anymore.” – T_JUS665



“My wife asked me what I said at counseling and I told her about my suicidal thoughts. She wondered aloud what else I hadn’t told her, and why I was keeping secrets, and does she really know me, and how can she trust me…” – mcshaggy

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